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Make Flirting work for you

Flirting is a useful way to attract a woman. Some men struggle with this concept, but a few simple flirting tips for guys can dramatically increase your ability to flirt successfully. If you’re interested in mastering flirting, here are some great flirting tips for men. Use them wisely to attract women wherever you go.

Flirt with a girl in an acceptable manner
Think of flirting as a game. Make the game too easy for her and she’ll get bored and won’t want to play. To get the girl interested you can try the flirting technique “push-pull”. You show her some interest – but then playfully push her away.

Maybe, when talking to a girl you could say something like “you’re totally awesome. You’re like my little sister”. The first half of that sentence lets the girl know that you’re interested in her. But in the second half you throw her through a bit of a loop. She’s not quite sure what to make of that interest since most guys don’t date girls that remind them of their sister. By keeping her guessing and adding that bit of uncertainty, you’ll be able to keep her engaged.

Make flirting a natural behavior
Becoming a natural flirt is about getting the right mindset, rather than having to master the right words and actions. Once you have the right mindset you’ll find the right words and actions.

The right mindset then is to assume that the girl you’re talking to is already attracted to you. Assume she wants you and is trying to get with you. See yourself as the perfect 10 out there, and that she’d be very lucky if she gets your phone number, goes on a date with you or goes home with you.

Don’t confuse this with thinking you need to be arrogant. It’s about seeing yourself as a desirable, popular guy that women desire. You get the confidence created by that belief in yourself, but be mindful that you are not coming over as a cock-sure, bigot, but really a nice guy. If you start to have fun (together – not at someone elses expense) then she’ll see you as having fun, and girls love that in a man, especially if it’s associated with attention to her.

Here’s an example of a flirty thing to say, to a girl who asks “Want to get another drink?”. You might say “Oh I see, you’re trying to get me drunk and take advantage of me”

I joined match.com and found some great women. I met a few, but most were too far to travel to, sensibly. I was in the forces but left with some injuries, so I always explain this to women before we get too involved. I tired lots of other dating sites, and found the best was Parship. I enjoyed using that site and also joined UdateME. Now things began to speed up. I had 3 dates within a week. The second date was the answer to my prayers. Amazing to meet Fiona, and we fell head over heals in love. Been going out for 3 months and don't need any dating sites any more, but thanks anyway for the best result.
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